As a natural of over 5 years, I have to agree that some naturals can make natural hair too much work. Natural hair regimens are one of the most sought after pieces of the natural hair journey. Also, natural hair regimens can be the most complicated.
When I first decided to go natural, I was a sponge, soaking up all the regimens that were available online – that were going to tell me how to have beautiful natural hair. Well, I think this is the single most fatal mistake that many new naturals can make.
One thing that I learned is that all advice is not the best advice for me and it should be taken with a grain of salt. However, the only way to discern good advice from bad advice is to understand and make decisions based on my own hair. I think the first step here is to understand what makes healthy hair.
I am here to tell you, it doesn’t start with a bottle or jar of product. This awareness can prevent you from making rash product purchases and also jumping on every bandwagon that is created. Sometimes, it is best not to copy others, but follow your own intuitions about what you need to do for your hair.
Even for me, natural hair can be too much work, even though I enjoy the topic so much.
I remember dreading wash day. I would spend 3 to 4 hours twisting my hair. Double strand twists were my style of choice.
When I reached this point in my journey, I began having a different set of expectations for my hair. It bothered me to spend so much time twisting my hair. I no longer expected to spend so much time twisting my hair after trying different twisting techniques, methods and products. However, these things didn’t reduce my twisting time enough to continue twisting in small/medium twists after wash day. So, I eventually changed and adjusted to a different style of chunky twists that took half the time, but still gave me my desired result of a protective style.
Just as I perfected my relaxed hair, I had to give myself time to perfect or at the least feel comfortable with my natural hair. I used to stretch my wash days with relaxers, because I didn’t know how to flat iron and get the look I wanted. For me, not having to worry about flat ironing on wash day is huge. I have learned how to flat iron now, but I don’t feel the pressure on wash day to do it.
Comparing relaxed and natural hair is like comparing apples to oranges. Most of all, it boils down to personal preference and lifestyle. They both have pros and cons. With natural hair, most naturals take on the responsibility of caring for and maintaining their own hair; which is much different than having a stylist take care of your hair every two weeks. When your hair care needs become your sole responsibility, it can feel like and become a lot of work. This is why keeping it simple and rewriting the rules is very important.
So, what do you think? Is it true? Is natural hair too much work? Please add your comments below.