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You Can’t Fail With Natural Hair Unless You Quit

August 25, 2012 By Leave a Comment

You Can’t Fail With Natural Hair Unless You Quit When we first started Natural Hair Community, we knew that it would take some time before it grew into what we ultimately envisioned.

We figured in the beginning we would probably suck a little – relatively speaking. Most new bloggers, business owners, entrepreneurs, drivers, bowlers, and musicians – you name it – all have a learning curve – where you progressively get better over time as you gain more experience and learn more about how to perform the activity.

It’s best that you realize and accept this early within your natural hair journey, because this same concept applies to natural hair also.

In the beginning, your natural hair journey might suck…and it’s going to be extremely frustrating.

You have to understand that this stage within the process of going natural is common for many women.

Failure is not fun, but it’s sometimes a requirement to grow. In order for your natural hair journey to reach its full potential, you might have to fail a few times – learning what works best for your hair and what doesn’t.

Making mistakes during your journey isn’t something that you should be ashamed of, because these mistakes are usually great growth opportunities. Once you’re no longer afraid of making mistakes during your journey, you will learn how to care for your hair much faster.

So, just remember that success is possible for anyone and everyone who is willing to work for it. There are many people who think they want to go natural, but give up at the first sign of possible failure.

They may have originally wanted to go natural, but there is a major different between the “wanting to” do something and “working to” do something. You have to be willing to work towards making your natural hair journey successful. Success is possible for everyone who is willing to work for it.

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Conversation with Heather of CurlKit.com

April 15, 2012 By 3 Comments

Curlkit Shop Conversation with the Founder of CurlKit.com

For the past several months now, Kenneth and I have been busy forging relationships with other natural hair bloggers, product manufacturers and many other naturals that can add value to your natural hair journey.

Recently, I had the opportunity to chat with Heather of CurlKit.com. Heather and I have chatted privately at length about the various ways that we can come together and offer great value to the women within the natural hair community.

We have formed a partnership and we look forward to the future of what CurlKit and Natural Hair Community will be able to bring to your natural hair journey. So, today, Heather and I will introduce the CurlKit brand to the Natural Hair Community audience.

For our readers who haven’t heard of CurlKit yet, tell them all about you and the philosophy of CurlKit.com.

CurlKit is a subscription service company that provides product samples for naturally curly hair. Its design is tailored to women who choose to wear their natural curls and are looking for an easier way to find the right products for their hair type. Along with product samples we provide them with maintenance tips, hair styles solutions and information.

Who is the mastermind behind CurlKit.com?

I am what you would call the girl next door product junkie, and I love to research everything before I make a committed purchase. I’ve been natural for over 10 years and anyone who knows me, knows that I love my natural curls. I have embraced my curls and feel beautiful wearing them. I love the option of experimenting and coming up with innovative styles and the flexibility of being a naturally curly diva. I wanted to share this knowledge with my curly sisters.

CurlKit offers such a unique service to natural hair women, what was the inspiration for its creation?

Like most women who are natural, my initial journey was very hard for me, if I can save at least one curly sister the aggravation; I will feel as if I have achieved my goal. The inspiration came from my journey and the difficulties of finding products that were safe and healthful to my natural hair.

Most naturals know that finding products that are tailored to their hair type can be like searching for a needle in a haystack, especially when you are not sure if it will even work on your hair. I thought it would be great to get a product to try in a smaller size and then purchase the full size if it seems to have a great effect on my hair. I have been sharing products and natural hair tips with family and friends for years.

So CurlKit just seemed like the perfect next step. I saw this as an opportunity to take it to a larger group of people. I wanted to share my wealth of knowledge to naturally curly women like myself.

Trial and error with product selection is almost inevitable when it comes to natural hair. However, CurlKit is establishing itself as the cure to trial and error with product selection for women with natural hair. What type of products should a new CurlKit subscriber expect?

Our subscribers are a big part of our brand variation and selection; they help with the decisions we make in selecting products. Most women ask us questions about certain products or a hair regimen issue, so we strive to include products that would be tailored to different hair types, and include guides to using these products.

With your subscription to CurlKit, you can rest assured that the product samples that we send you are perfectly safe for your natural curls. All our products are carefully selected and screened; our aim is to provide products that have the most amount of natural ingredients. We are into total and healthful hair care and strive for quality over quantity.

What can we expect from CurlKit next?

We hope your subscribers, visitors and community members will enjoy the products, tips and tools we provide in our kits. We plan on expanding our product list and reaching out to more brands that are tailored to naturally curly hair.

Our CurlTalk is going live this month and that is very exciting for us. We have seen our CurlTalk grow exponentially since its inception in February and to-date we have connected Curlfriends together from Canada, Virgin Island and United States; that to me is very exciting to me.

Our plan is to continue to provide our customers with quality natural products and not get caught up in the hype and just put anything in our kits just to fill the box. Our video tutorials are up so we want our customers to visit the site and review them hopefully they will inspire them to try new innovative styles.

We plan to continue to post informative articles every day because we have gotten rave reviews from our customers about the value of the content. We just want to let our current and future subscribers know that they play a major part in the success of this company and we want to hear from them. We are in this together.

All the best on your natural Curl journey,
Heather & The Curlkit Crew

For more information about monthly membership to CurlKit, be sure to check out the CurlKit Shop. Each month CurlKit subscribers receive a selection of 5-9 sample hair products. You will receive everything from pomades and conditioners to natural hair tools.

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Natural Hair Is Not For Everybody

February 26, 2012 By 12 Comments

Natural Hair Is Not For Everybody Natural hair is not for everyone, because everyone will not choose to wear their natural hair.

Recently, a community member shared her experience with an old high school friend. In the mist of the conversation, the friend said two things after she realized the community member was now natural:

1. That’s not sexy!
2. Natural hair isn’t for everyone.

One thing has to be remembered, it’s very difficult to respond to ignorance and stupidity without reducing yourself to the level of the person making negative comments to you.

I call it ignorant and stupid when someone purposefully says mean and hurtful things to another person without regard or forethought to how their words will make the other person feel.

Don’t get me wrong, there are a lot of people that are ignorant to the facts when it comes to natural hair – just as I am no diamond expert.

I wouldn’t go into a jewelry store and insult the sales person, because I have a lack of understanding of a diamond cut and its market value. I would humble myself and ask questions to gain insight and understanding. That way, I leave with a better understanding of the situation and less frustration.

I think the phrase “natural hair is not for everyone” is a valid statement and here is why:

1. Going natural or wearing your natural hair is a personal choice.

Although it is the hair that grows out of our head, with the advances in today’s beauty industry, there are options. Honestly, everyone is not going to personally choose to wear their natural hair. The truth of that matter is that many women didn’t even choose to get their first relaxer, it was a decision someone else made for them. Many women have gotten accustomed to a certain look that fits them and they don’t want to change that.

I was curious about natural hair many years before I decided to go natural, but never really envisioned myself with natural hair until I was at least in my 40’s. However, all of that changed when I saw my oldest daughter struggle through her transition from relaxed hair to natural hair. At that point, it came time for me to make a personal decision – read more about my natural hair story.  

2. It really does take confidence and courage to wear your natural hair.

When I mention confidence, I am not saying that every woman who has natural hair has her stuff together. I’m also not implying that women with relaxers don’t have confidence or courage. I am simply saying that it takes confidence and courage to step out into society with all the stereotypes and myths about black hair.

I remember when I first decided to wear my hair in a wash n go to work. I had only been natural for 17 months. I was so worried about what they were going to say. Although, there was another co-worker who was natural, I still thought someone was going to say something to me. But my desire to wear my hair out was bigger than the fear of what someone might say about my hair.

Jael Wash n Go

As I went through my day, I tried to keep a smile plastered on my face and not to show that I was petrified. Even when I went out for lunch, I felt like all eyes were on me and my huge hair. I was so relieved when a co-worker said that my hair was cute and she liked it. I was not looking for validation because I was determined to get over the fear I had, but boy it sure was nice to receive a compliment along the way.

Once you go natural you must be confident in your decision, because there are some people who may approach you with mean comments. It’s unfortunate, but somehow your decision to go natural is a personal insult or challenge to some women.  It takes courage not to fold under the pressure that some women go through, enduring the hurtful insults that are spewed at them. This is why in our free natural hair eBook; I encourage women to know why they are going natural. Sometimes, that is all you will have to lean on.

3. Being natural is a personal journey and it can be frustrating.

There are some women who seem to have their hair care routine down to a science early in their journey. Their hair always looks nice and they style their hair effortlessly. If you haven’t already, you will realize that your hair may have to come into its own.

Looking at other naturals is good for ideas, but their reality may not be your reality. You will have to develop a regimen and create styles that works best for you. It is beneficial if you take the time to learn and understand how to care for your hair during your natural hair journey.

These 3 things are only a few reasons why natural hair is not for everyone. Everyone needs to remember that it’s a personal choice and everyone should be afforded the ability to make the decision without ridicule or speculation.

I think a more befitting statement is natural hair is for everyone, but not everyone will choose to wear it.

Everyone sees beauty differently. Different views do not mean wrong views.

It simply means different.

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How to Big Chop Today and Go Natural Immediately

January 16, 2012 By 2 Comments

v In the natural hair community, the term “big chop” refers to cutting or chopping off the relaxed ends of your hair. This is generally done when a person decides that they want to go natural immediately, since big chopping is the quickest way to go natural. If you want to have 100% natural hair today, then big chopping will help you accomplish your goal.

It’s important to note that big chopping may not be right you. If that’s the case, there are other options to going natural. Many women decide that they would rather transition from relaxed hair to natural hair – instead of big chopping. However, many of the women who have actually decided to big chop, state that’s it’s one of the most freeing experiences of their entire life. You definitely don’t want to make a decision that you’ll regret, however most women who decide to big chop absolutely love it!

For many women, deciding to inform your spouse, other important family members or friends is an important part of the decision making process. For others, they couldn’t care less about what other people think and they’re going to go natural regardless. If you fit into the former category, here are a few resources that will help you with your decision to big chop.

Big chopping can be a lot of fun and for many women it occurs because a moment of spontaneity. However, if you have the opportunity, there are several things that you can do to prepare yourself to big chop. This is a major decision that you’re about to make and you will want to make sure that you’re comfortable with your decision. Once you cut your hair off, there is really no turning back.

Once you’re sure that you’re ready to big chop, here is a guide that will lead you through the process.

If you’re considering going natural and would like to big chop, then you’re in the right place. Feel free to ask any questions that you have about big chopping or going natural in the forums.

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How to Go Natural For Newbies

October 15, 2011 By 15 Comments

How to Go Natural Unless you are one of the few women who have never had a relaxer, you have come to a point in your life where you have decided to go natural. Once you make the decision that you’re ready to take that big step and truly begin your natural hair journey, there are several considerations that you must make.

Going natural doesn’t have to be difficult and this guide is designed to help you begin your natural hair journey. Keep the following statement in mind, there really isn’t a “right way” to go natural. The important thing is that you have made the decision to go natural and we are here to help make sure your journey is successful.

Good luck with whatever you choose to do. If you’re interested in learning exactly what’s required to become natural, feel free to read the content below:

Many women face a tremendous amount of push-back and receive negative comments from family, friends, and sometimes strangers when they make the decision to go natural. Here are some articles that will help you accomplish step one.

Planning is really important. It leads to goal creation and mitigates your chances of having an unsuccessful natural hair journey. The act of writing down a plan for your hair makes it easier to track progress as you learn about your hair over time. The articles below will help you avoid things that will cause your journey to fail (or postpone success) and teach you how to create a natural hair journal.

To officially become natural, you have to make a decision to do one of three things: big chop, transition from relaxed to natural or start dreadlocks. Regardless of your choice, the articles below will help you with the process.

How to Go Natural

If you decide to big chop:

If you decide to transition from relaxed hair to natural hair:

If you decide to start dreadlocks:

Make a commitment to yourself that you will keep an open mind during your natural hair journey. There are several things that you will need to learn along the way, it’s important to be patient and learn the basics before you begin worrying about more advanced topics. Every natural will need a basic set of products. Next you will need to begin the learning process and document how certain products work on your hair. I’ve compiled a few articles below that will help you create your beginning natural hair regimen. Note: You will fine tune your regimen over time as you learn more about your hair.

Choosing your initial set of natural hair products can be difficult, especially when you’re newly natural and unsure of what to look for in a quality natural hair product. We have created a list of natural hair products that we recommend. These are products that have worked for thousands of other naturals and might be great products for you also.

If you have any specific questions about Going Natural – please let us know.

We wish you the best during your natural hair journey.

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She Needs You to Go Natural

October 6, 2011 By 14 Comments

She Needs You to Go Natural I feel compelled to respond to a Facebook post that I read recently. It was about a teacher who wants to go natural, but is hesitant because a little girl (student in her class) that wears her natural textured hair is teased by the kids.

So not to be a target of the teasing kids; the teacher delays her decision to go natural.

One of the worst feelings that a child can possibly feel is that they are alone. Children can be cruel and just down right malicious to each other and it tears away at their self-esteem and self-worth.

Think about this: If an adult woman needs support and encouragement, I would definitely think that our daughters would also, probably more than we do.

I’m sure that our kids sometimes feel all alone – taking the weight of the world on their narrow shoulders.

However, as adults, we’re more experienced. We see more and we know more. When we need help with our natural hair, we understand that we are not alone.

There are several online communities for women who choose to wear their naturally textured hair.

What happens when there is no online community for her?

What if the community is not within reach?

This teacher decided that she would not go natural because of kids in her class who tease another student – who is natural. She has a tremendous opportunity to stand up for that child who is being teased. When you think about this child’s self-confidence and personal acceptance, who really knows the damage that is being done.

I know the feeling that I feel when I meet another natural haired woman on the street. We have an instant connection. We can start discussing hair and build on the conversation.

I can only imagine what that little girl would feel if she went to class tomorrow and found out that her teacher decided to know natural as well.

Now, I realize that the teacher does not have to go natural. But if it is something that she wants to do, I think she should go for it!

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Wigs or Weaves After the Big Chop?

September 30, 2011 By 9 Comments

Wigs or Weaves After the Big Chop Mental preparation for going natural is a core step, but I don’t think anything can really prepare you for the initial shock when you cut ALL of your hair off.

I can’t lie, generally speaking, you are the same person. However, you will definitely look different and people will notice. Especially those people who see you on a regular basis or who know you personally.

I big chopped after transitioning for 16 months. I wore my hair in a puff for two months straight. I transitioned; because I wanted to go natural, but I had concerns about Kenneth’s feelings about long relaxed hair vs. short natural hair.

I didn’t know how to style my hair, beyond wearing a puff. So after 16 months, my hair was a good length for a puff and wash and go.

Two months after big chopping, I decided to wear my hair out to work and boy did I feel paranoid!

I felt as if my hair was gigantic and I thought everyone was looking – staring and gawking at me. I would constantly pat my hair, making sure it was in place.

I kept going to the bathroom to make sure I looked okay.

Can you say mind games?

My approach was simple and I took it as personal challenge. I thought about wearing wigs and getting a weave to help me through this beginning stage, but then it hit me.

I wanted people to start seeing me with my natural texture. Plus, I wanted to become more familiar with it also.

I decided that I wouldn’t cover it up in the beginning of my journey.

So I toughed it out – no wigs or weaves.

As a result, I had the chance to watch my hair change through the stages. I had time to develop a level of appreciation and familiarity for my natural hair.

This also gave others the opportunity to take part in my journey. I remember sending emails, giving people a small glimpse into my natural hair journey and showing them what my hair was doing as it grew.

Looking back, I received a lot of encouragement too.

Don’t get me wrong. I understand that not everyone will take my approach and that’s okay.

During this journey, you have to do what you feel is comfortable and right for you. Wigs and weaves might feel right for you and that’s okay – you are still natural.

You may decide to cover your natural texture for two years and that is okay too.

People are more accepting of things that they are familiar with – things they see on a regular basis. That is how appreciation begins.

So what’s your experience? Did you hide your natural hair until a later date or did you flaunt a big chop hairstyle?

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What’s Really Holding You Back?

September 28, 2011 By 10 Comments

What’s really holding you back? Are you thinking of going natural, but haven’t taken the plunge yet?

Take some time to think about it. What’s really holding you back?

We understand how it feels to cling to the creamy crack – curious about going natural, but uncertain about whether you should do it.

You aren’t alone. There are many other naturals who struggled with the mental transition of going natural. Transitioning mentally is often the toughest part of your journey.

Here’s an open invitation to you: Tell us what you’re dealing with. We’re here to help.

Deep down, what are your biggest fears?

You may struggle with many of the same things that other naturals struggled with before that decided to go natural.

Here are the top 5 reasons (that we hear about most often) that cause women to procrastinate instead of going natural:

Reason #1: Many women are worried about what men really think about natural hair. There are several men who prefer women with natural hair. If you already have a man, no worries – learn how to tell your spouse that you’re going natural.

Reason #2: Are you afraid of how you will look after big chopping? If this is you, then don’t big chop. Once you decide that you want to go natural, all you have to do is stop applying a chemical relaxer to your hair. Once you make that decision, you are officially going natural. You don’t have to big chop. If you decide not to big chop, then you can transition as long as you want.

Reason #3: Some women think natural hair isn’t professional. I really don’t think this would be a problem, unless you don’t have a neat personal appearance or aren’t well groomed. If that’s the case, then it wouldn’t matter if you were natural or not.

Reason #4: Have you ever heard someone say that they don’t have “good hair” or that they don’t have the hair to go natural? I can see how you might have fears about how your hair will look after you go natural. This feeling isn’t uncommon, but it’s often a larger concern than it needs to be. Going natural requires you to transition mentally before you transition physically. This concern about how you will look is often the first hurdle that you must overcome.

Reason #5: You don’t want to rock an afro all the time. If that’s you, then you have absolutely nothing to worry about. There are several awesome natural hairstyles.

I’ve only named 5 concerns that many women have about going natural, but I’m sure there are many more – as this list only scratches the surface.

If it isn’t one of the things that I’ve listed above, then what is it?

Take control of the things that you want. If you want to go natural, then it’s all in your power. What’s really holding you back?

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How to Tell Your Spouse That You’re Going Natural

August 5, 2011 By 18 Comments

How to Tell Your Spouse That You're Going Natural One of my favorite meals is an 8 ounce filet mignon, at medium temperature, with a signature “Chop Salad” from Ruth’s Chris Steakhouse. On the other hand, Jael would rather just swing by P.F. Chang’s and dine on Hot and Sour Soup and Mongolian Beef.

Furthermore, I prefer Coke products and Jael prefers Pepsi products. So, where am I going with this?

I’m simply illustrating that people can get along great and have different preferences – even if those different preferences start out as different opinions on relaxed vs. natural hair.

Let’s face it; some men struggle with their wife’s decision to go natural.

For the female, going natural – by itself – can be very taxing mentally. However, telling your spouse that you’ve decided to go natural can be even more difficult. Especially, when it’s done at the wrong time or simply done incorrectly. That’s when things can really go downhill quickly.

I’ve heard several women mention how they didn’t receive the support that they wanted or deserved when they initially decided to go natural. Maybe their husband or boyfriend didn’t care for natural hair. Maybe it was your mother or another family member who caused you undue stress because you decided to stop getting relaxers.

If you’re planning to go natural soon, currently transitioning from relaxed to natural hair or just recently big chopped, there are some very specific steps that you can take to mitigate the undue stress of loved ones not accepting your decision to go natural.

The real difficulty that many females face, when they decide to go natural, is that it’s hard to deliver the news to a loved one when you’re expecting to receive a negative reaction. If you begin to feel angst about delivering the news because you’re anticipating what they may say, it’s important to follow these steps to mitigate conflict.

Step 1: Make sure you’re comfortable with your decision before you tell someone else who may disagree with your decision. Going natural can be a shock to your family and friends, but mentally it can also be a shock to the individual who has decided to go natural. Make sure you’re comfortable with your decision before you decide to tell anyone else that you’re going natural – especially if they may disagree with your decision. It’s easy to be persuaded into changing your mind if you’re not 100% confident that you really want to move forward with this decision.

Step 2: Anticipate how your spouse will feel about your decision prior to delivering the news and practice what you’re going to say. This step is very important because you’ll need to craft your message specifically for the person that you’re delivering the news to. If you actually follow this step, you will have formulated exactly what you plan to say to your spouse when you share the news. It’s important to note that you may have to respond to your spouse’s cues.

Step 3: Be sure that you choose  a location that is private and comfortable to break the news. If you request to speak to your spouse in private, they may initially feel like they’re about to receive some “bad” news. This can actually work in your favor, because typically if people know bad news is coming they will brace themselves for the blow. After they hear that you’re going natural and it’s nothing bad, they may actually be relieved that it wasn’t something much worse. Be sure to choose a place where you have a low likelihood of being interrupted by someone and don’t forget to turn off all electronic devices – like cell phones, radios and televisions.

Step 4: Choose the appropriate time to share the news. Once you’ve made the decision to go natural, you may be really excited about the months to come. However, it’s important to make sure that your spouse is ready to listen and be receptive to your decision. Timing is important and can make a world of difference in how they take the news that you’re going natural. For example, don’t tell your husband that you’ve decided to go natural right as he walks in the door from a long day at work.

Step 5: Focus on clear communication while delivering the news to your spouse. The words that you use and the style of your delivery are critical. Don’t beat around the bush, get right to the point – believe it or not, this generally works best. Look your spouse straight in the eyes and calmly tell them that you’re going natural and explain what it means to you as an individual. As you speak, be sure to respond positively to any negative emotions that you receive from your spouse. Simply explain your point of view, give them time to accept the news and plan for next steps as needed.

If you need assistance on specifically what to say, you can use transition phrases when communicating. An example of that communication style is as follows: “I’ve been dealing with a burning scalp and the sores that come with getting relaxers for many years…and because I’m tired of putting myself through that torture, I’ve decided to go natural and not get relaxers anymore.”

If necessary, continue to explain your decision and as you narrate through the various struggles that you encountered during your years of getting relaxers, be sure to react to any emotions from your spouse in a positive manner – by acknowledging their objection and specifically addressing them.

Here are some final tips:

  • Sometimes follow up actions can prevent the situation from getting out of hand. If your spouse needs more time to completely understand your decision, then afford them that time. When the time is right and they’re ready to talk, be prepared to discuss the situation in more detail.
  • If your spouse gets mad or makes some unsuspected comment, remain calm. It’s important to listen to your spouse’s comments and legitimize their emotions. Be sure that you don’t get emotional yourself.
  • Be clear with your spouse, explain what will happen next and allow them to participate in your natural hair journey with you. If you plan to big chop, ask your spouse if they would like to help you cut your hair. If you allow them to participate, they will feel more connected to you and your decision to go natural.
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The Mental Transition

May 12, 2011 By 11 Comments

Mental Transitioning

Mental transitioning is changing your mind. It is convincing yourself of a new truth about your natural hair. Literally, transitioning your thought process, it is changing your mindset from thinking a certain way – the way you have always thought. You must mentally open your mind to think something different, something new. These new things are thoughts, ideas and feeling you have about your natural hair.

Accepting Your New Hair

As you journey through your mental transition or your mental journey, you will discover that things that you were taught about your natural hair or things that people told you about your natural hair were wrong. Since your hair looks a certain way, only grows to a certain length or doesn’t do what other people’s hair can do, you may have been lead to believe that your hair wasn’t good enough. Mainstream media even wants us to believe that natural hair isn’t beautiful. This simply isn’t true. During your natural hair journey, you have to convince yourself that you no longer have to fit that mold. Begin your mental journey by changing your thought process.

Continue to Learn Your Hair

Continue to educate yourself on the basics. It is really important to understanding why your hair does what it does. Even if you don’t totally understand, you will be empowered mentally because you will continue to evolve mentally. Why is your hair curly? Why does your hair shrink when it gets wet?

You May Have Some Fears

One of the first tasks is to understand and acknowledge your fears. Then explore the core of those fears. Do know why you feel the way that you do? Who told you these things that you believe about your natural hair?

Recognize your fears and determine how you plan to address them. When you address your fears directly, those fears no longer have any power over you. Facing your fears will help you accept reality about your hair, because tearing down your fears or concerns and accepting what your hair does naturally will give you a chance to have a real moment with yourself for accepting what you see in your natural hair. Psalms 139:14 states, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” During your journey, you will have to make some decisions when facing your fears. Know that I believed in Christ and I know that His word says that I am made in His image – Gen 1:27 and if so, taking God at His word, how can your hair texture be a bad thing. So, what do you think?

Stand on His word. You are perfect for you. Everything about you is God’s plan and design for you. When I was going through my journey, I had to realize that my hair was not meant to look like anyone else’s hair. So know that you are perfect for you. Be sure not to allow other people to sow negative seeds into your life on your fertile ground. We have to learn to be happy with what we have and with who we are.

Lift yourself up, instead of pointing out the bad in your hair. Point out the good and the beautiful. Celebrate your hair and what it is by getting to know it and what it likes. To start your mental transition, stand up and say the following words, “This is my hair and it’s beautiful.”

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