“January 16, 2010, I made the big decision of going natural. After receiving relaxers since the age of 6, I got really inspired by women I knew who went natural. They seemed so confident, poised, and comfortable with themselves. I was married at the time and hair stylist visits were not cheap – $75 for a relaxer??? When I see the same thing in Walgreens for $7 a box? Oh no way. The chemicals in the relaxer stripped my hair dry and I could never get my hair past my shoulders. Well, natural at the time, made sense. So I did the big chop on January 16, 2010.
My hair grew so fast, it was almost scary. I was able to do a wide range of styles that were low-maintenance and quick: blow-outs, two-strand twists, and cute fros. People started to really embrace my new look and frankly, I did too. People paid attention to my face and my intelligence. Well in October 2010, I decided to change up my look a bit, I thought about trying the press and curl.
Why did I do that?
This girl, who was a younger stylist that I had already knew, stated that she knew what she was doing and “Yes” she does natural hair! So of course, I was super ecstatic about the opportunity to sass up my natural do and show others the versatility of natural hair. Well of course, she pressed it and it was beautiful, my hair was longer than I expected and everyone loved it! I decided to go back a 2nd, 3rd, and even 4th time for the same press and curl….
The styles were beautiful and I felt great!
One year natural, I was so excited about my growth, but my curl pattern had changed. My ends were straight as a stick and my hair started to shed drastically. I started to cover up the straight ends by doing two-strand twists and adding rollers to the end and even, wigs. My hair continued to come out in strands.
During the 3rd visit for the press and curl, I noticed that my hair stylist would blow dry my hair put a tiny bit of grease something in my hair and then preceded to press my hair and then curl it. “That’s a lot of heat”, I thought to myself. No heat protectant.
January 25, 2011, I saw my hair coming out in sections up to the “new growth”. I had sections of my hair gone!
On February 1, 2011, I made the gut-wrenching decision to chop it all off again. I was so heart-broken, but I knew that my hair was beyond damage and repair. But I know now, what I can and cannot do to keep my hair from damage. I have made the pledge to not put heat on it at all, and if I do, to use a good heat protectant along with my hair care regimen.
Natural ladies, keep your hair good and moisturized….wanna use heat? Use a good heat protectant to keep your curl pattern. I’ve learned and you’ve been warned.”
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I think we all go through trials and tribulations with our hair. I’ve talked to ladies who have been natural for several years and they have told me that they are STILL learning what is good and not good for their hair. I wish you luck and thanks for sharing.
I was blowing my fro out because my mom and fam got on my nerves about my fro but it only led to heat damage. I’m so over straight hair its not something I have to have to be cute!! There is a Natural Hair stylist here in Columbus, OH who gives these workshops called “Get It Straight” telling naturals you can get your hair straight without a perm and she has something like the blogs and youtube vids can help but she has the “only” system that works.
I’m not trying to knock her hustle but what is the purpose of being natural only to damage the hair again with heat and more heat
Heat damage is like the silent killer for curly natural hair. You don’t know you have it until it’s to late…
good pnt
This is EXACT same story. I wanted to kill the woman who overly pressed my hair. But if she hadnt killed my gorgeous fro, i never would have known how sexy i was as a bald woman. Nor would i have learned so much about regrowing my natural hair!
A similar thing happened to me, except I never wanted to straighten my hair. I was in a wedding and the bride wanted all her bridesmaids to wear a bob. At the time my fro was pretty huge so I knew if I straightened it, it would be at least shouder length if not longer, so I thought “no problem”. I’d never had my hair straightened before, but everyone in my family is natural so I just went to their beautician. Well, needless to say she drastically damaged my hair (but only on one side). I have 3c type hair that is really soft and easily affected by humidity (not to mention I live in the south where humidity is a daily woe). Almost as soon as I stepped foot out of the shop, I knew I’d made a HORRIBLE mistake. My hair was oily/greasy feeling and lookiing, not at all what I’d envisioned. Although it was the length I thought it’d be. About an hour later, one side of my hair began to revert back to its curly, natural state, while the other side stayed straight. Discouraged I called the bride and told her what happened and straight would not be an option and I’d have to wear my fro. Well, I thought I’d just was and go as usual. NOPE! After washing and conditioning my hair, the one side was still straight. She’d completely ruined my hair! I ended up doing a two strand twist and blowing it out for the “fro look”, but my hair was never the same. Maybe I should have cut it all off then, but after that, I decided to lock my hair to try to salvage it. I wore locks for 4 years, then finally did another BC and I’m back where I started from…
I can relate!!! The same thing happened to me. Never again though:) The lady I went to used heat protectants, but all in all it was too much heat for my hair. Before I knew it I had to basically start all over. But hey…we live and we learn (smile).
Wow!!! Heat is nothing to play with… Do you know if the beautician used heat protectant
I am currently going through this scenario. I was the one who did the damage. I felt that I would make a more favorable impression on interviews with straight hair. I used a flat iron that went up to 455 degrees, with heat protector, now my hair looks like I’m trying to grow out a perm. Ugh. I’ve been natural for about a year and a half and it pains me that I now have to start the process over again. Yes, I know now, I should have just stayed my naturally curly self. Live and learn.
Exactly what I did. Getting ready for the BC for the 2nd time.
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Yup, damage is something you much continually keep up with
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HELP! My 10 year old daughter, who had beautiful long natural hair, wanted to wear it straight. So, I took her to have it pressed. Little did I know that I was silently killing her hair. Now, a year later, her hair is shorter and more damaged than it’s ever been. I don’t want to cut it all off, but her curl pattern is ruined, I don’t know how to stop the breakage and I feel so defeated. We have gone back to braiding and rolling the ends, in hopes that the rest will help her hair – but I need help in what to do next. It breaks my heart that I have done this to her, all while trying to keep from damaging her hair with chemicals. Can anyone help me?
Hi Sherrain,
The best thing that her needs is moisture, deep conditioning and TLC. However, the hard words of truth are: damaged hair can not be repaired and cutting the damaged ends are the only way to end the breakage, excessive shedding and split ends. Remember that split ends can crawl and damage otherwise healthy hair strands, similar to how a pair of pantyhose start with a small ruin on the heel and by the end of the day, it has run all the way up the leg, even when you put finger nail polish on the pantyhose to stop the ruin. If you are keeping her hair in braids, cutting off the heat damaged hair would be ok and less drastic because she is already in braids and you won’t be able to tell if her hair is short or long. This way, you are working with healthy hair that happens to be short instead of heat damaged hair that is longer, yet breaking. I know you don’t want to cut the heat damage hair but the heat damaged hair is going to break off eventually because it is damage and the core of the hair strand has been damage and the curl pattern is not returning. Make sure her braids aren’t tight (you want to keep her edges healthy and you don’t want the hair extensions to damage the hair strands and instead of helping to retain her length, it is breaking through the strands), moisturize her hair while in braids with almond or jojoba oil and water mix or use braid spray, do not keep the braids in longer than two months, keep her braids clean and sleep with a satin cap on. The most important thing of all… reassure her that her natural hair is beautiful whether it is short or long. Many of us are learning along our natural hair journey and mistakes will happen, some we are able to bounce back right away and others, fortunately, the bouncing back is not as fast. I say fortunately because during these times, we are forced to learn a lesson that will stick with us. There are options with natural hair like twist outs, which can be worn down in the back and flat twisted in the front. What type of products are you using, products can cause drying also, depending on the ingredients. I hope this helps… Please keep us posted on her progress
Hi Jael,
Love your name. My dad told me my name was based off of ‘Jael’, which I believe is in the Bible? I don’t remember! Anyway, I’d like to combat a point that I see throughout all natural hair blogs. That is the fact that heat damaged hair is gone. I believed this too until I damaged my hair by flat ironing every day for a week straight on dirty hair (I hadn’t washed in about 2 weeks) filled with shea butter, tea tree oil, leave-ins, and olive oil. I washed my hair on the 7th day and realized that MOST of my hair was damaged and bone straight. I was very frantic. I’d read plenty of storied about heat damage and knew that my hair was beyond repair. I asked my sister’s boyfriend and he gave me some tips but I didn’t believe him because I had already heard that heat damage was irreparable. However, I tried his tips because I was already crying & frantic. If my hair was as good as gone, why not? I washed my hair 4 more times with a whole lotta water. That did nothing. He told me to deep condition and put my hair in a shower cap for an hour. I did this. He also told me to throw some she butter in there. When I washed it out, I was amazed. By the grace of God, – I’d say – about 90% of my hair bounced back. Some of it didn’t bounce back perfectly. My hair was about a 4B & C with a lil 4a round the edges before but some of it bounced back to about a 3C or 4a. But this was a thousand times better! It actually helped to make my hair more manageable when I would braid it every day. There is only a piece of my hair that didn’t bounce back in the very front of the right side, right in front of my ear. I wore a wig for about a month because of the little piece. I wore braids every day underneath this and by the time I finally wore my hair out again, even that lil piece has bounced back some. It was bone straight at first and now its a big curl. Slowly, but surely, my hair is bouncing back, and I don’t mean the new growth. The damaged ends seem to be reverting. I can wear my hair in its natural Afro state with only a wave in the front. My hair is stronger than it has ever been and I didn’t have to cut it. Maybe I was just lucky or my hair is different; I don’t know. But I’d say, don’t give up too quickly. I wanted to. I had the scissors ready and was trying to get my sister’s boyfriend to help me cut my hair. If he hadn’t helped me, I probably would have cut off all my hard work without even TRYING. At least try to save it. It worked for me and hey…maybe it can work for someone else.
thank you!!!! Your post just gave me hope. this damaged state has left me in a mood of depression and lost. All i read is CURE FOR DAMAGED HAIR IS BIG CHOP! i been natural all my life. my hair is halfway down my back and my curls were beautiful. i pressed i colored i went curly and i never experienced heat damage till not cause if my new flat iron. i was irresponsible and was not thinking. i know the exact period where and when i did it..i font want to cut my hair. my curls are not severely damaged i still have curl no one notice the difference but me.
Thanks for ur post….gonna definitely give it a shot. I straightened my hair and now one little patch in the front and one in the back refuses to curl! I thought of cutting my now shoulder length natural hair-reluctantly. I also thought of just cutting the damaged parts and wear styles to disguise the missing hair. I am going to give the “boyfriend solution” a shot and c what it do!!! Thanks again!
Another thank you! I blew out my hair with low heat. It wasn’t bone straight, it’s still elastic, and really, it looks the same as it did before. It’s just that the texture is different (no pen-spring coils in the front, not as wavy in the back, but still a big puff ball like before, still shrinking up with water, though I’ve only washed it once since the heat). But if your hair acted like it did, perhaps my coils will come back.
Wow, I so wish i had read this post only 3 days ago. I too damaged my hair by flat ironing it, and same for my former hair stylist. It was at the point where my hair was coming out in large clumps daily when combed, brushed, or heaven forbid, washed.
After asking for recommendations from others, as I’m still fairly new to the area, I went to a new person, who immediately looked at my hair in horror and said I would need a protein treatment and deep conditioning. After that and being blown dry, my hair seemed fairly normal again, but this new stylist said it needed to be trimmed.
Why did I allow that?
I went from past shoulder length hair to chin length, with little room for option other than further need to rely on heat styling.
I’ve been in tears non stop since that evening, and am dreading being seen in public tomorrow as before, i could at least twist or pin it up, but now, it’s still semi straight with no length.
Mishkarina thank you for sharing your experience. I think your new stylist is pointing you in the right direction with protein treatments and deep conditioning. Now, I don’t believe that these treatments will revert your hair back to what it used to be; however, I do think that it will reduce further damage and possible breakage from heat damage.
If at all possible, start reducing the frequency in heat usage and the temperature.
Are you asking why did you allow your hair to trimmed or why did you allow the heat damage?
You style have options, I believe in doing what is right for you and your natural hair journey. So, if you have to braid, wig or weave your way to where you are comfortable in order to put down the heating appliances, do that. You have options, you may need to be a little more creative but they are there.
Keep your head up and know that this to shall pass. Be just as confident as you were before.
THIS IS LONG. But I want to describe what I did and how I began to see curls.
I am going to have to agree with you…some heat damage can be reverted. I too have read on almost all of these sites that you just have to big chop, and that’s just not true. I have also heard people say that if your hair reverts back you didn’t have heat damage in the first place. I really don’t know but I definitely would advise you to be patient and never jump to chopping off your hair. (unless you were the type that got annoyed at transitioning because it took work. If thats the case, this might not be for you.)
I read a suggestion online to just not put any kind of heat in your hair for three months and that your curls should come back. This is what I am doing and I must say, slowly but surely, my curls are returning.
Immediately after a long year and a half transition, I went to get my hair pressed. Since a majority of my hair had never been pressed, I fuzzed up almost immediately. This led to “touching-up” my hair with a 450 degree FHI iron almost EVERY DAY. Within one week, I had pressed my hair almost 6 times WITHOUT re-washing in-between. My hair finally began to look dirty and dry so I washed my hair hoping to see it all revert.
Well, my hair frizzed back up and it wasn’t bone straight, so I assumed I was safe. However, I didn’t know what my natural curl pattern was since I was newly fully natural. After a couple of weeks, I noticed one super duper curl with amazing definition in my hair. That was when it hit me…THIS was my real curl pattern. It looked something like a 4a. I had just assumed I was a 4c since there was no curl in my hair, just haphazard kinks. Plus, I am full-blooded Nigerian, and the media pretty much implies we are all 4c’s (which I’m really started to believe is not even real. Probably just frizzy 4a, 4b hair), so I just assumed that what I saw after the repeated pressing was my natural hair state. One day I used H.E. Hello Hydration for a one hour deep conditioning session with no heat under a plastic cap. When I rinsed out, I saw about 15 of those perfect tight curls. Over a period of two months, with repeated deep conditioning sessions with heat sometimes,no heat other times, and using different products, a MAJORITY of my head is now covered in those curls. The times I have been seeing the most curls come back was when I did my Giovanni clarifying and followed up with an hour deep conditioning session. I’m starting to think some product build-up may contribute failure of curl reversion.
Today I did an olive oil pre-poo for the second time (the first time I did it over-night with no results) using a LOT more oil and placed my hair under a plastic cap for 15 minutes. I then clarified with the Giovanni (I alternate with the Tea-Tree 50-50 Balancing and regular 50-50 Shampoo.) Upon rinsing my hair, I noticed superior curl definition for the first time PRIOR to conditioning and my curls looked amazing and non frizzy. In additon, EVEN MORE curls were appearing and MORE curls became tight and springy!
I am convinced (since I have seen it myself) that curls can revert, but it takes time and learning what your hair responds to. I do not want anyone here to think that the products I used will be their answer, but I think the key here is to get your hair back to a healthy state. I did a lot of co-washing during this time and got results, but then my hair stopped responding to the co-washes and looked lifeless. This is when I would use the Giovanni 50-50 and follow up with a deep conditioning and the curls would just spring up! Whatever your hair needs, respond to it. For months my hair has been dry, so I deep conditioned about once every 4 days, and sometimes every two days. When it felt filmy, I clarified. Now that I wanted to tackle my frizz, I oil rinsed. Most importantly, I LAYED OFF THE HEAT!
You may feel like putting in braids, but I wanted my hair to be well moisturized prior to braiding, which is what led me to deep conditioning often. Now that my hair is full of curls, I will put in braids and continue to wash and deep condition regularly for the next 2 months so that I won’t be tempted to use heat. Please try it ladies! The simple “put-water-to-it” is not a good indicator of if your hair is permanently damaged.
Loni – Thanks for sharing your experiences.
I have crazy thick hair that tends to run on the fuzzy side. I use Shielo Antioxidant Leave In Portectant because you CAN physically see the hair being sealed. My hairdresser is on strict orders to let me know if my hair starts drying out (so I can stop with the iron). She says it’s fine. And since she doesn’t sell me the thermal protector, I believe her.
Shielo hair leave in protector works great on my hair. You can clearly see the spray protecting your hair from the heat. My hair is really thin and my sisters hair is extremely thick and it works great on both our hair.
Hi Barbra -
Thanks for sharing your experience with your stylist. Whenever I hear about hot appliances being used, I get nervous. However, it sounds like you’re taking some precautions, so hopefully everything will work out ok.
Kenneth
My experience is a little unique.
I went natural in 2006, but… I wore my hair in pressed styles. I never did the infamous “big chop”, I just grew it out. A few months ago, I noticed that my hair was no longer curly… that it was pretty much bone straight even when washed, so I talked to my stylist about how to get my natural but consistently pressed hair back curly. She told me it was possible and she was right! I’ve been doing twist outs to my straight hair to get the “natural look” and when I wash it, I’ve noticed the parts that seemed forever straight were starting to look more and more like their natural self. It can be done, but it takes patience.
I agree Crystal, After noticing that my ends were straight after being natural for almost two years I asked myself, what was causing this?…There was only one answer… HEAT…UGH(and the crowd go’s BOOO)…I had been warned… So I did a mini chop and cut a few inches so there was not so much of it present…From there I began to condition and moisturize like crazy…When I say that I don’t mean “Soul-Glo” status…lol…But i was moisturizing daily, Pre-pooing, and deep conditioning every week on wash day…After a month or so of this my ends (the straight ones that were left) came back to life…Don’t get me wrong they are not super tightly coiled but they are wavy and curled in some form… if too much product is applied they are straighter, which I don’t wear wash and go’s because I just think I have too much hair to have to detangle that so it’s not a problem but my hair is definitely bouncing back…lol…I say all of that to say that I really think that it never fixes the issue…its damaged forever…But with persistence and as long as it is not splitting or breaking off…Some bad ends can be savaged…It’s all up to you…Other than that just CHOP IT…lol
Ladies, thank you very much for your tips. Thank you for your honesty. I started my Natural Journey 5 years ago. I have been totally natural for 3 years. I decided to do something different, as our “guest blogger” mentioned. I went to the salon and got it pressed. I’ve Pressed it twice so far. I no longer have a tight curly afro.
… My hair is straight, with some stringy curls if it’s wet. I haven’t worn it down because it’s puffy, and I don’t want to flat-iron it to straighten it. My feeling, is that it is DAMAGED!! What do I do next? I don’t know…. I would like to wear it out, like a wash and go, but it doesn’t look healthy, it looks stringy… If I blow dry it, it’s puffy…Now, I just pull it back in a pony tail..The quality of the hairs feels good, because I keep it moisturized. I’m stomped because, I don’t know how to style it 
help, please….
Desperately Seeking Hair Advice…
Hi Kina- you are doing the best thing keeping it moisturized. Because your cuticles are damaged, make sure that you are giving you hair ample protein as well as keeping it moisturized. Protein will help feel in the gaps along your hair strands. Starting out with a product that is light protein is best. I use Aubrey Organics Green Tea Finishing Rinse and it tells you to focus on your ends. But if you know that your hair like protein, you can use whatever product you are comfortable with. For instance, I don’t think I would be able to use the Aphogee 2 Step Protein Treatment, it will be to much. However, trying one of their other products that are not sooo protein heavy could be an option.
If you are not ready to snip the damage parts, protect them. I am assuming that your straight pieces are on the end and not up the hair stand. Check out my album for styles. Tuck (side) combs and hair pins can become your newest bestfriends. Keep us posted on your progress
http://naturalhaircommunity.com/members/jael/album/
WOW! this is the first time I’ve seen someone who has gone through what I’m going through. I got sassy myself and decided to get color this year after first transitioning then doing a big chop last year. Additionally, I got a little crazy with the hair curling during the summer, doing the process at least 4 times in a 6month period. Now I’m going through the same problem as the blogger and is seriously considering doing ANOTHER Chop. I literally have straight and kinky hair as if I’m in transition all over again. I know next time, If I want my hair straight, get a wig and move on. If I want some color, get a rinse and keep it stepping.
Kaye – Yep, heat damage is something that many women learn about after they suffer from it. I wish you much success on your journey.
My thing is this when you use relaxers you use heat so not having a relaxer one would think your hair would be stronger and better able to handle heat or is it the hair type is it natural curly the 3a’s and etc who can handle it better and the 4B’s cant . I am really trying to understand I thought natural hair to most people meant the best of both world wearing hair straight without chemical damage when you wantand rocking curls kinks fros when you want
I agree with you. That was part of the hype from people who were natural in convincing me to do it. I thought It would be more versatile but from reading the mass opinion it is either or. I don’t believe this to be true. I have only straighten my hair twice since going natural. This first time, just my bangs to see how long it had gotten before I washed my hair. I failed to use a protectant because it was just one little section and I was about to wash it. It did not curl back up and I was so sad because of what I had heard. But as time went on I wore twist out and gave it a rest from straightening and found that it will revert back. That straightened state was just temporary for me. If I had to choose, I would be a little sad. But I would get over it and just wear a wig when I wanted a change and choose not to straighten.
Hi Confused- You are right, generally, they are talking about being able to wear your hair straight or curly when you choose. When I was relaxed, I heard of women having their hair burned because the curling ironing or flat iron was too hot. The difference was the hair was already straight so the woman could not tell if her hair was burned straighter or not. The hair just felt a little crispy and different from the rest of the hair.
Unlike natural hair, if your hair is not naturally straight, you will definitely notice that your hair didn’t revert back. Some women can do whatever they want with their hair and it always revert. On the other hand, some women maybe able to apply heat only a few times before their pattern starts to change.
As @Kenneth has said before, you never know until it has already happened but by then, it’s already to late.
If I want straight hair, I refuse to straighten my hair only because I am convinced that my hair can not take heat… I don’t even like seating under hooded dryers anymore.
I definitely agree with @arctictamm – I don’t believe in the best of both worlds at least not for my hair…
I mostly wear my hair in a twist-out style but will occasionally get it straightened for special events. I do not think pressing hair is the way to go. I’m not sure how hot the comb gets in those ovens, and you can’t control the heat as you can with a flat iron. When I do get it straightened, the stylist who does my hair puts a deep conditioner on first and then I have to sit under a hair steamer for 30 minutes. She’ll blow it out and straighten it with a flat iron. Two natural stylists have both told me that pressing with a hot-comb will cause damage to the natural curl pattern. I think too much heat (whether natural or permed) will cause damage to the hair shaft. I get my hair straightened once or twice every 3-4 months.
I currently have heat damage because while I was transitioning I used sew-in weaves, and I had to flat iron my hair for it to blend with the straight hair I didn’t realize I was damaging my hair until it was too late. Now that I have big chopped, the front of my hair (section where my leave out would be) is straight at the ends. I have decided that I am going to slowly cut it out.
Hi @lovelynaturalbeauty – this is very common and just as you stated, many women don’t realize until after the fact. You are doing what works for you and cutting slowly is a great option
Jael
I’m having the exact same problems as most of you are. I experienced my first relaxer at age 13 and this was only because the lady who would press my hair said it was too thick & too much hair for her to continue pressing. i’ve been getting relaxers ever since but last January was the last time I got a relaxer. I made the big chop in July and my hair began to grow at a very fast rate. Recently I decided to straighten my hair for a length check so I got it pressed and saw that it was almost back to the length it was before my BC but when I washed it, an entire section of my hair was still straight. I found this odd because when I was younger and my hair was pressed, after being washed, it would return to it’s natural texture but this time was different. I washed my hair the next day and still. it was straight. One of my friends twisted my hair for me because there was no style I could wear my hair in, the top was curly and the bottom was straight. I don’t know what to do or how to wear my hair with 2 different textures.
I have SUPER THICK curly hair that i blow dry straight and flat iron. My hairdresser the Shielo Antioxidant Leave in Protecter Spray and i decided to try it, though i was hesitant.
I tried it for a week with no other styling products, and since that week i have been a believer! This product is amazing – My hair is now shiny, silky, soft and not damaged at all.
It’s also nice to only have to use 1 styling product as opposed to the 2,3, and sometimes even 4 that i was previously using.
I’m a stepmama for two beautiful daughters ; however, I’m so frustrated and at the same time thankful I came across this blog page because their biological mother insists on pressing their hair before braiding it in cornrows and my hubby and I keep telling her not to do it to their hair because it will make it worse. Our oldest daughter’s hair texture is quite “kinky” and thick, but it’s short due to her mom pressing her hair all the time in the past. Our daughter wants longer hair, but we have tried to tell her that she has to stay away from heat in her hair, but her mom insists that she either presses or blow drys her hair before braiding it. Now her hair splits at the ends, hair breaks off at her temples and her hair is extremely dry and brittle. Every time she comes back with her hair pressed in cornrows, it takes nearly three weeks for me to “catch it back”, but then her mom starts the process again. Her younger sister’s hair is more curly and softer than hers and definitely doesn’t need heat, but her mom does it anyway and her hair takes a month to catch back somewhat because her ends are too straight and cannot hold a good braid. It’s so annoying; Not sure what to do, but I guess we can only continue to place a good growth and moisture regimen on their hair.
I am a newbie and need alot of help. i have been visiting youtube on do’s an don’ts with natural hair an i am somewhat confuse. what is the best thing for course, dry and color hair. i use parnevu leave in conditioner and onces a week i wash my hair and use aphogee 2minute reconstruction but my hair is still very dry. Please help:(
I will be 40 years old in September, and I am ready for a change. I’ve never – read NEVER – had a relaxer before. I went to the same stylist for 17 years. She was a master of the “press ‘n curl”. However, about 10 months ago, I went for a hair cut. I brought in a picture. I ended up with what resembled a mullet. It was awful. When I returned the next day her to correct her mistake, she said, “I didn’t understand what you wanted.” That one statement severed our professional and personal relationship. It was like ending a marriage. Nevertheless, I found another stylist. I was in love! She was able to give me a cut, and I was able to keep my press ‘n curl. Well, fast forward to the present…. My hair is dry. I asked my stylist not to use any hairspray on my hair. The press ‘n curl remained for about 4 days. $50 for 4 days. This summer, I am doing my own hair. It’s awful. It looks like pieces of straw sitting on top of an afro. I hate it, and I don’t know what to do.