The term style challenged is just a really cute way to say that you don’t know how to style your hair. A more formal definition of style challenged is not having the skills or lacking confidence in your current skills to style your hair in such away that is pleasing and/or desirable to you. Really, that’s all it is.
There is nothing wrong with being style challenged, it’s nothing to be ashamed about. It really doesn’t mean anything other than the fact that your styling ability is very limited. It is not a reflection on your grooming or your cleanliness.
I will be the first to admit that I am styled challenged. However, being natural, I found comfort and relief in unleashing my creative side that complimented my personality more and realized that I don’t always have to go for that slick look, that my natural look works just as well. Instead of relying on tools, ie flat irons, curling irons or what have you. I have become more reliant on accessories to help achieve many of my simple looks from a bodacious flower to a small hair clip.
One action that will help build confidence is practice.
Practice basic natural hair styling techniques. The default style for most naturals that in the being stages is the wash & go and/or puff. However, there are other techniques that you can use: braiding, bunning, knots, twisting, rolling and parting.
There are many variations and versions to explore and all of them will not be the perfect one for you. Don’t tackle them all at once, it will be too overwhelming. However, if you tackle them one at a time, what you learn will be more digestible and you’ll reduce frustration. Eventually, as your technique is perfected, you will find that you can mix and match the different basic styling techniques.
When you are going through all the variations, choose a technique that you are comfortable with and adjust, massage and rearrange it until you get it just like you like it. Keep in mind, that not all basic techniques are not universal and one size does not fit all. The goal is to customize the technique to fit you. Remember, as you practice, allow yourself to get it wrong and don’t worry if the style doesn’t look perfect right away.
Don’t expect for your style to look exactly like someone else’s style. Chances are that the style may look different with your hair. This is the ultimate natural hair killer. However, you’ll get it, eventually, I promise. And from the ashes of your diligent efforts, a go-to style will merge or you will have added a new style to your repertoire.
Pay attention to what is working with the style. You will find that if you have varied textures of hair, it will react differently to different techniques that you try. If this is the case, you may have to do something different for that particular section of hair.
Learning basic styling techniques and becoming comfortable with your ability to style your hair, will help you overcome being style challenged. When you trying a new style, remember that the worst case scenario is that you won’t like the style and you will have to revert to what you know how to do best… whatever that style is.